No matter what differences there are between the mother and the father, the child should NEVER be betrayed by either party. I know that feeling, and it's not an easy healing process. Teach your children to love and show them love. Just because the parents doesn't get along doesn't mean it includes the child. A lot of children suffer from low self-esteem, loneliness, emotional and mental issues because of the disfunction of the home. But even if mommy/daddy is not there in the home physically, doesn't mean that co-parenting can not take place. Single mothers, let past hurts and disappointments go. Everything happens for a reason. Focus on you and your child/children. Let God lead and He will heal you and give you peace. I'm speaking from experience. I have 3 different baby fathers. Don't hold your child back from them because he hurt you. Don't be foolish! If he wants to be apart of their lives, LET HIM. If he doesn't, STOP FORCING IT. Get on you knees, give it to God, encourage your children(positively! Don't you dare say nothing negative about their father to them!), and keep it moving. Don't get on Facebook, don't text him (or the girlfriend/wife, or anyone in that family). We as single mothers have got to learn how to stand our ground, smarter and wiser. Leave the children out of ya'll mess and leave each other alone if you can't get alone.